Friday, 12 November 2021
Ephesians 5: 22-33
One of the more famous songs by Aretha Franklin is the 1967 song titled “Respect”. It was about human dignity and understanding an individual’s inner longings. It became a major hit and interpreted as a commentary on gender roles. It was eventually used as an anthem by the feminist movement in the 1970s, demanding men show respect to women.
In the second stanza of the song, Aretha Franklin’s lyrics go like this:
“All I’m asking is a for a little respect when you get home hey, baby
when you get home, mister…”
However, not many know that the song was originally introduced by a man called Otis Redding in 1965. In Redding’s rendering of the song, it was originally a man asking his woman to give him a little bit of respect when he gets home!
This takes me to the passage before us this morning. In Ephesians 5:25, ” husbands are instructed to love their wives just as Christ loved the church. ” In verse 28, “ husbands are to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.”
But to the wives, in Ephesians 5:33b, wives are instructed to respect the husband.
It appears to me that the fundamental need of a man in a marital relationship is to gain the respect of his wife. Similarly, the fundamental need of the wife is to feel loved by her husband. Isn’t that beautiful?
If a husband can truly love his wife unconditionally, his relationship with his wife will greatly improve. And if the wife respects her husband unconditionally, their relationship will blossom and stay refreshed for many years!
My prayer this morning is that every husband learns to sacrificially accept and love his wife as himself. Be slow to criticise,
and reduce sharp words that hurt the tender heart of a woman. I also pray that every wife will learn to respect her husband irrespective of what has happened in the past. Show the respect that the husband craves for and do not belittle him. This helps to strengthen the marriage.
If you are single, the same principle of love and respect may still apply to you, in your relation with your parents or siblings. Learning to show love, and respecting one another preserves harmony in the family. Why not start today?
Lord, I pray that every relationship between a husband and wife will be strengthened by your mercy and grace. Let love overflow in the heart of every husband for his wife. Let every wife respect her husband irrespective of past misdeeds. Let there be forgiveness in the family Lord. In Jesus’ name, I ask. Amen.
艾瑞莎•富兰克林 (Aretha Franklin) 最著名的歌曲之一是 1967 年的歌曲“尊重”。这是一首关于人性的尊严和理解个人内心渴望的歌曲。它大受欢迎，并为性别角色做出了评论。它最终被 1970 年代的女权运动用作为主题歌，要求男性尊重女性。
这就把我带到今天早上的经文。在以弗所书 5:25 中，“你们作丈夫的、要爱你们的妻子、正如基督爱教会．” 在 28 节中，“丈夫也当照样爱妻子、如同爱自己的身子．爱妻子、便是爱自己了。”