Saturday,24th July 2021
Title: Parents raised us when we were young and we take care of them when they are old
By Pastor Andrew Lim

Mother’s day in May, Father’s day in June and Parents’ day in July — these are all seasons of thanksgiving. These celebrations let us remember we were protected by our parents to grow healthily and happily till present. These celebratory days remind us not to ignore the love and care of our parents, and reminded all of us not to neglect the love to our parent, love must be timely!

Since I was old enough to be sensible, I have not told my dad and mom that I love them, until 2006 when my dad passed away. From then on, I’d go back to my hometown to visit my mom every month. Apart from providing her living expenses and accompanying her, I started to tell my mom : I love you, and at the same time before I leave, I’d pray, bless her and give her a loving hug; if my children followed me back to home town, I’d ask my wife and children to hug her too.

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother—which is the first commandment with a promise— so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth. Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” Paul gave a blueprint for Christian family: husbands love their wives, wives submit to their husbands, and children obey their parents. It is the foundation for both family harmony and social harmony.

The 5th commandment in the Ten Commandments stated: Do as your Lord God had commanded: to honor your father and your mother, so that you may be blessed and live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.
As children, we should respect our parents. Therefore, we are blessed by our parents and receive blessings from God.

Obeying parents is God’s commandment, and it is also pleasing to God. The Bible places great emphasis on doctrine of filial love and duty. The Bible says: “Honor your parents so that your days will be long on the land the Lord your God is giving you.” “Children, obey your parents in everything, because this is pleasing to the Lord.” Not only must we obey our parents in the Lord, but the Bible also says: We must honor our parents. Being Filial love encompasses respect, care, love, attend to, serve, care, and support.

Children should know how to honor their parents, because when we have the opportunity to become parents, we can understand the hard work and hardship of our parents, and being a parent, we will be busy for our children till old. There is a saying: “Raise a child to a hundred years, worries will last for ninety-nine years”.

It is justified and only right for children to be filial to their parents. It is not easy for parents to raise us up. In the past, our parents brought us up when we were young, now we take care of our parents when they are old. Everyone will get old one day. We should show our filial affection to our parents and be considerate. But parents should also be considerate of the struggles that their children face, because they have aging parents and young children—the burden is heavy, and the pressure is great. Hope that the elderly in the family can also be understanding.

We don’t need to treat our parents with fancy meals every day. We just need to care about them more often, to see them more, to talk about happy things with them, to listen to them, and when our parents see that we are healthy, safe and respectful, they will be satisfied. Parents rarely even have the opportunity to see us especially in the midst of this raging pandemic, but advances in technology have allowed us to use video call to talk face-to-face with our parents to help them to ease the pain of missing us.

Prayer: Heavenly Father, I have never been a role model in honoring my parents, because I need to treat them with all kinds of love and patience. In every stage of their lives, please allow me to do my duty and use all wisdom to honor, respect, care, love, to attend to, serve, take care of, and provide for them. Because our parents raised us up when we were young, now we have to take care of them as they grow old. I pray this with sincerity, in the name of Jesus. Amen.

每日灵粮
星期六,2021年7月24日
标题: 父母养我们小,我们养父母老
作者:林金仪传道

5月的母亲节、6月的父亲节到7月的双亲节,都是感恩的季节,这些节日让我们回忆在父母的庇护下健康快乐成长至今。这些节日都在提醒我们不要忽略了父母一直以来给予我们的关怀及爱,也提醒大家对父母的爱不能怠慢,爱要及时!

我自从懂事之后,好似就从来没有跟爸爸妈妈说我爱他们,直到2006年爸爸离世后,从那时起,我在每个月回去家乡探望妈妈,除了给她生活费和陪伴她,亦开始跟我妈妈说:我爱您。同时在离开时,为她祷告祝福和给她一个爱的拥抱;若孩子也跟着我回乡,我也会要求太太与孩子们也一样拥抱婆婆。

“你们作儿女的,要在主里听从父母,这是理所当然的。要孝敬父母,使你们福,在世长寿。这是第一条带应许的诫命。你们作父亲的,不要惹儿女的气,只要照着主的教训和警戒,养育他们。” 保罗给了基督徒家庭一个蓝图:丈夫爱妻子,妻子顺从丈夫,儿女听从父母。是家庭和谐以及社会和谐的基础。

十诫里面的第5诫命令 :當照耶和華你 神所吩咐的、尊敬父母、使你得福、並使你的日子在耶和華你神所賜你的地上、得以長久。
身为孩子的我们应当尊敬父母,我们因此得到父母的祝福,也领受从上帝来的赐福。

听从父母是神的戒命,也是神所喜悦的。圣经非常注重孝道,圣经说:“当孝敬父母,使你的日子在耶和华你神所赐你的地上得以长久。”和“你们作儿女的,要凡事听从父母,因为这是主所喜悦的。”我们不仅在主里要听从父母,而且圣经也说:也要孝敬父母。孝敬包涵尊重、关心、爱护、伺候、服侍、照料、供养等意思。

做孩子的要懂得孝敬父母,因为有机会我们也成为父母时,更加可以理解父母的辛劳和不易为,并且为人父母会为女忙碌到老。有话说:“养儿一百,常忧九十九”就是这个意思。

孩子孝顺父母那是应该的,是天经地义的。父母把我们养育大,那是多么的不容易,以前父母养我们小,现在我们养父母老,谁都有老的那么一天,我们应该孝顺父母,体谅他们。但是做父母的也应该体谅一下做儿女的辛苦,因为上有老下有小,负担很重,压力很大,希望家里的老人也能明白事理。

我们不需要每天都给父母吃大餐,只需要多一点去关心他们、多看看他们、陪陪他们谈谈开心的事、听听他们说话,当父母看到我们健康平安并孝敬,就心满意足了。特别是在这个疫情肆虐中,父母甚至都很少机会看到我们,但是科技的进步,让我们能够用视频与父母面对面的谈话,解他们思念之苦。

祷告:天上的父神,在孝敬父母方面,我从来都不是个堪称楷模的榜样,因为需要用各种爱心与耐性去对待他们。在他们生命的每个阶段里,恳请您让我能尽本分并以各种智慧去孝敬、尊重、关心、爱护、伺候、服侍、照料、供养他们。因为父母曾经养我们小,现在我们养父母老。诚心祷告是奉耶稣的名。阿门。