Saturday，24th July 2021
Title: Parents raised us when we were young and we take care of them when they are old
By Pastor Andrew Lim
Mother’s day in May, Father’s day in June and Parents’ day in July — these are all seasons of thanksgiving. These celebrations let us remember we were protected by our parents to grow healthily and happily till present. These celebratory days remind us not to ignore the love and care of our parents, and reminded all of us not to neglect the love to our parent, love must be timely!
Since I was old enough to be sensible, I have not told my dad and mom that I love them, until 2006 when my dad passed away. From then on, I’d go back to my hometown to visit my mom every month. Apart from providing her living expenses and accompanying her, I started to tell my mom : I love you, and at the same time before I leave, I’d pray, bless her and give her a loving hug; if my children followed me back to home town, I’d ask my wife and children to hug her too.
“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother—which is the first commandment with a promise— so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth. Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” Paul gave a blueprint for Christian family: husbands love their wives, wives submit to their husbands, and children obey their parents. It is the foundation for both family harmony and social harmony.
The 5th commandment in the Ten Commandments stated: Do as your Lord God had commanded: to honor your father and your mother, so that you may be blessed and live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.
As children, we should respect our parents. Therefore, we are blessed by our parents and receive blessings from God.
Obeying parents is God’s commandment, and it is also pleasing to God. The Bible places great emphasis on doctrine of filial love and duty. The Bible says: “Honor your parents so that your days will be long on the land the Lord your God is giving you.” “Children, obey your parents in everything, because this is pleasing to the Lord.” Not only must we obey our parents in the Lord, but the Bible also says: We must honor our parents. Being Filial love encompasses respect, care, love, attend to, serve, care, and support.
Children should know how to honor their parents, because when we have the opportunity to become parents, we can understand the hard work and hardship of our parents, and being a parent, we will be busy for our children till old. There is a saying: “Raise a child to a hundred years, worries will last for ninety-nine years”.
It is justified and only right for children to be filial to their parents. It is not easy for parents to raise us up. In the past, our parents brought us up when we were young, now we take care of our parents when they are old. Everyone will get old one day. We should show our filial affection to our parents and be considerate. But parents should also be considerate of the struggles that their children face, because they have aging parents and young children—the burden is heavy, and the pressure is great. Hope that the elderly in the family can also be understanding.
We don’t need to treat our parents with fancy meals every day. We just need to care about them more often, to see them more, to talk about happy things with them, to listen to them, and when our parents see that we are healthy, safe and respectful, they will be satisfied. Parents rarely even have the opportunity to see us especially in the midst of this raging pandemic, but advances in technology have allowed us to use video call to talk face-to-face with our parents to help them to ease the pain of missing us.
Prayer: Heavenly Father, I have never been a role model in honoring my parents, because I need to treat them with all kinds of love and patience. In every stage of their lives, please allow me to do my duty and use all wisdom to honor, respect, care, love, to attend to, serve, take care of, and provide for them. Because our parents raised us up when we were young, now we have to take care of them as they grow old. I pray this with sincerity, in the name of Jesus. Amen.
十诫里面的第5诫命令 ：當照耶和華你 神所吩咐的、尊敬父母、使你得福、並使你的日子在耶和華你神所賜你的地上、得以長久。