Friday, 23 July 2021
Isolation and Loneliness
By: Sally Cheong

Luke 22:43 ” And there appeared to Him an angel from heaven, strengthening Him.”

We are lonely even in a crowd.

We can feel lonely even if we are married. People think those who are married don’t experience loneliness. That is not true. The reason is because your spouse, husband or wife, does not really understand you. And it is not fair to expect that they should all the time because we don’t even really understand ourselves at times.

We are lonely even if we have a family. Ask any teen or child. Even when they are much loved by their parents and grandparents, they still feel lonely. Much more for those who have lost a parent or both, or their parents are divorced. Their deep sense of loneliness makes them reach out to friends and anyone who would listen to them.

We are lonely when we are old. Whether we are single or married, age does not discriminate. Our children, if we have any, have their own lives to live. They have no time for the aged. We were young once, remember?

We are lonely when we are suffering, whether from estranged relationships or just being alone too long. We remember Jesus asking Peter, ” couldn’t you watch with me even an hour?” He was in agony and His soul was consumed with sorrow to the point of death, yet when He needed His closest companions most, they were sleeping. Is it not a common experience that when we desperately need someone close to be with us, we can’t reach them, or they are too busy?

Illness accentuates loneliness. We have to go through it alone. Who can really understand the pain and discomfort that we feel when we are ill? Painkillers and sleeping pills only give transient relief. There is no medication for the despair of the soul when you are lying sick on your hospital bed or at home, even if there are people around.

We are lonely when we are dying. An ancient tale once said of a man who pleaded with the angel of death when his time has come, “I don’t want to go alone.” The angel told him he can bring someone along if he can find someone willing to go with him.

God has put eternity into the hearts of man that only He can fill. Nothing in the world, nothing external can fill that hollow void or emptiness inside. Not family, not friends, not work, not pleasure, not food, not things, not even death.

Man needs his God, not any god, but the one true Living God. Only Jehovah can make us feel complete in Him.

But why do Christians still feel lonely sometimes if they have found their Saviour and their God?

Ecclesiastes 3 tells us that there is a time for everything under heaven, a time to laugh and a time to cry, a time to live and a time to die….and so there is a time to be lonely.

What then is the difference between those who have Christ and those who have not, since both experience loneliness?

The BIG difference is this – an angel from heaven will minister to us as an angel had ministered to Jesus at the time of His agony in Gethsemane. We have to cry out to God the way Christ did in His hour of deepest loneliness and sorrow. He was alone without human companions but He was alone with God. And the Father sent Divine help to strengthen Him and to lift Him up to face His cross. He will do the same for us, whatever our cross may be.

Prayer :

Abba Father, how wonderful are the lives of those who live and move and have their being in You. They are never lonely for long. You strengthen them from on high and lift them up above the dark clouds on wings like an eagle.

Father, we pray for the weak in faith who are struggling emotionally, spiritually, physically, and financially during these never seem to be ending lockdowns. Strengthen them with Divine hope to carry on, hold them up with Your Right Hand, and assure them as only You can because You are GOD, that You have blessings in store for them. Even though they may be suffering now, You will restore to them these years the locusts have eaten.

We ask in the precious Name of Jesus. Amen

每日灵粮
星期五 2021 年 7 月 23 日
标题:隔绝与寂寞
作者:张绣梅
翻译:巫惠如

路22:43 有一位天使从天上显现,加添他的力量。

即使众欢喧嚣闹,我们也感到孤单寂寞冷。

即使结婚了,我们也会感到寂寞。人们认为已婚的人不会感到寂寞,其实并非如此。因为你的配偶、丈夫或妻子,也许并不真正了解你。而且期望他们一直了解你是不公平的,因为有时我们甚至也不真正了解自己。

即使我们有了家庭,我们还是很孤单。问问任何青少年或孩子。即使父母和祖父母很喜欢他们,他们仍然感到孤单。对于那些失去父亲、母亲、双亲,或父母离异的人来说,更是如此。他们深深的落寞感使他们渴望接触朋友和任何愿意听他们的人。

当我们老了会感到孤寂。无论我们是单身还是已婚,年龄也只是个数字。我们若有孩子的人都晓得,他们有自己的人生和生活。他们没有时间照顾年老的。我们也曾年少啊,你记得吗?

当我们受苦受难时,我们感到孤单,无论是因为疏远的关系,还是因为独处太久。 我们记得耶稣问彼得,“怎么样,你们不能同我警醒片时吗?” 他痛苦不堪,他的灵魂深陷悲伤直至死亡,但是当他最需要他的战友时,他们却睡着了。难道这不是一种常见的情况吗?当我们迫切需要一个亲近的人与我们在一起时,我们却无法联系他们,或者他们太忙?

疾病加剧了寂寞感。我们得自己面对一切。谁能真正理解我们生病时感到的痛苦和不适?止痛药和安眠药只能暂时缓解疼痛。当你病倒在病床上或家里时,即使周围有人,也没有药物来治疗灵魂的绝望。

我们离世时也一人孤寂。有个古老的故事说道,当死亡天使降临时,一个男人恳求,“我不想一个人死去。” 天使告诉他,如果他能找到愿意和他一起的人,他可以带人来。

上帝将永恒注入人心,而且只有祂才能填满人心。世上没有任何的事物能填补空洞或心里深处的空虚— 包括家人、朋友、工作、快乐、食物、东西,甚至死亡。

人需要上帝,不是任何一位上帝,而是永活的真神。只有耶和华能让我们在祂里面感到完整。

但是,基督徒既然已找到了救主和上帝,那他们为什么还会感寂寞呢?

传道书第三章告诉我们:凡事都有定期,天下万务都有定时。哭有时,笑有时。 生有时,死有时。所以这样看来,孤独也有时。

既然有基督的人和没有得着基督的人都会经历寂寞的时候,那么两者之间有什么区别呢?

最大的不同在于:有一位天使会从天上显现加添力量,就如当时耶稣在客西马尼园痛苦中,有天使加添他力量。我们不得不像耶稣在他最孤单、最悲伤的时刻那样呼叫上帝。他独自一人,没有同伴,但他与上帝在一起。父神赐他从天而来的力量并高举他,使他能面对十字架。无论我们的十字架是什么,他也会为我们做同样的事。

祈祷:阿爸天父,那些住在你里面的人,真是何等有福。他们不会永远陷在孤单里。你如鹰从高处加添他们力量,扶他们飞越乌云密布。

父啊,在似乎永远都不会结束的封城时候,我们为信心软弱的弟兄姐妹代祷,那些在情感、属灵、身体和金钱上苦苦挣扎的人。求主永恒的希望坚固他们,用你的右手紧握他们,并使他们确信只有你能做到这一切,因为你是上帝,你为他们准备了祝福。即使他们现在可能正在遭受痛苦,但蝗虫已吞噬的这些年,你必定会偿还他们。我们奉耶稣的宝贵的名祈祷,阿门。