Date: 29 March 2021
Title: The Sin of Unbridled Anger
Writer: Richard YW Yeoh

Verse: Matthew 5:22 (ESV) ”But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother will be liable to judgement; whoever insults his brother will be liable to the council; and whoever says, ‘you fool!’ will be liable to the hell of fire.”

The Bible is replete with exhortations and advice on the sin of anger. Indeed, in every book there are many verses cautioning us on the dangers of uncontrolled anger.

Then as now, we are reminded not to sin in our anger, to not let the sun go down on our anger and to not grieve the Holy Spirit. For the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. Therefore, be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger. We are reminded to put away anger, wrath, malice, slander and obscene talk.

Why is anger given prominence in God’s Word? It is a fact that uncontrolled anger gives rise to dire consequences. We read daily of how people who are consumed by anger commit serious crimes – from road rage, murders, to abuse, torture and killing, even within the confines of the family home. Habitual and excessive anger in the home poisons the whole family atmosphere and is a form of generational curse as children learn this conduct from parents and repeat the same in their own adult lives resulting in generations of quarrelsome families, robbed of the joys of family life intended for us by the Lord.

Every one of us has experienced anger at some point in our lives but anger must not take over our thoughts and actions and cause us to lose control. Being aware is the first step towards being victorious over this weakness with God’s help.

Feelings of anger is not the real sin – it’s what we do and how we manage our anger that is the issue. Many a time, habitual anger has root causes in early life (e.g. childhood abuse or harsh treatment) that needs to be resolved through counselling, therapy and prayer.

We need to daily pray for patience and understanding in our relationship with others and not be quick to judge or lash out at others. Anger often stems from a misplaced sense of superiority, righteousness, or pride.

Within the family, let’s resolve to be more patient and understanding. As the late American Management guru Steve Covey teaches, “Seek first to understand, then to be understood”.

Practical home applications that I practise include:

  • Never scold or nag at anyone at meal times. Gatherings at the dining table should be a time to bond and not be associated with anger and strife.
  • Where disciplining is required, do so in love, never in anger. This includes not shouting at or hitting anyone or speaking in harsh tones.
  • When we have wronged or hurt someone with our anger, be quick to apologize and show love to restore the breach. Be mindful that harsh words spoken in anger can cut like a knife and hurt loved ones for a long time.

Finally, I would strongly recommend that we all embrace and display the fruit of the Spirit namely, love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control and commit all our relationships to the guidance of the Lord.

Prayer: Our Father in Heaven. May your peace fill our hearts and displace all feelings of anger and resentment within us. Give us a Spirit of patience and understanding. Look upon us and cause Your face to shine upon us. Help us to forgive those who have hurt us in their anger and forgive us for sinning in our anger.
In Jesus’ Name. Amen.


经节:马太福音5:22 “只是我告诉你们:凡向弟兄动怒的,难免受审判。凡骂弟兄是拉加的,难免公会的审断;凡骂弟兄是魔利的,难免地狱的火。”



为什么在上帝的话语中,愤怒被放在突出位置?失控的愤怒会导致可怕的后果,这是事实。我们每天都阅读到被愤怒吞噬的人是如何犯下严重的罪行 – 从公路暴怒、谋杀,到虐待、折磨和杀戮,甚至在家庭中。家庭中习惯性和过度的愤怒毒化了整个家庭气氛,是一种代代相传的诅咒,因为孩子们从父母那里学到了这种行为,并在自己的成年生活中重复这种行为,导致了代代争吵的家庭,剥夺了上帝原本打算赐给我们的家庭生活的乐趣。




在家庭中,让我们下定决心要更加耐心和理解。正如已故美国管理学大师史蒂夫·科维(Steve Covey)所教导的那样,“先寻求理解,然后才寻求被理解”。


  • 切勿在进餐时责骂或唠叨任何人。餐桌上的相聚应该是一个联结的时间,而不是与愤怒和纷争联系在一起。
  • 当需要管教时,以爱为准,切勿发怒。这包括不要对任何人大喊大叫或殴打,也不要用刺耳的语气说话。
  • 当我们因愤怒而冤枉或伤害了别人时,要迅速道歉,并表现出爱来修复破口。请记住,愤怒时说的刻薄的话会像刀子一样锋利,伤害亲人很长一段时间。