Sunday, 17 May 2020
Proverbs 17.6, 21, 25 NLT
Grandchildren are the crowning glory of the aged;
parents are the pride of their children.
It is painful to be the parent of a fool;
there is no joy for the father of a rebel.
Foolish children bring grief to their father
and bitterness to the one who gave them birth.
These three verses of scriptures picture a family can be most joyous and blessed when we instil godly fear or wisdom in our children when we are young. If we don’t train them in the way of the Lord. Life can be painful, with no joy, much grief and even bitterness when we are old. God’s wisdom desires to see blessedness in our family, where grandchildren are the crowning glory for aged grandparents, and where children are proud of their parents.
If parents do not make the raising of children a priority and if children do not honour their parents, both risk losing the greatest joy that life can offer. If we do not spend time training, loving and nurturing our children, we will miss out the joy in our old age. No amount of success in other areas will make up for the failure of having foolish children.
The next two verses, 21 and 25 describe us as grieving parents and explain the reason for our grief. FOOL (kes.eek) denotes a person that is stupid, arrogant, dull, complete lack of understanding, rebellious and usually unable to deal with life in a successful and practical way. A fool lives a life of sorrow that he brings upon himself. He also brings sorrow into the life of his father. The sad thing is that the sorrow doesn’t go away even if the son is grown and moved out on his own. A father will always be a father to his son, throughout his adult life too.
The father of a fool has no joy. The word FOOL (NABAL) is a different Hebrew word. Abigail husband’s name is Nabal. He was a fool because he won’t listen. This word Nabal defines a fool as a senseless, lack of capacity to understand, implying being rude and disrespectful; and thoughtless and disobedience to the Law of God. This is the type that says “there is no God”. Therefore a father of a foolish son will have no joy.
He has pain and sorrow instead of joy. This does not mean he has no joy in his life at all. Each time he thinks of his son, there is no joy. It causes him sorrow. This foolish son keeps on stumbling over again and again by making poor choices in his life. It grieves the father. GRIEF is an emotion caused by the sadness in a distressing situation. It agitates, stirs up or provokes the heart to anger. It keeps a man up at night feeling frustrated and upset, foolishly mourning over a wayward son or daughter. The reason is that the father loves his child.
This foolish son or daughter also deeply affects the mother too. A foolish son or daughter is bitterness to the mother. It expresses tragic, unpleasant experiences of the bitter taste. It is a mental state of regret, grief, anguish and regret. It is a bitter pill to swallow for having a foolish son/daughter.
Prayer for today
Parents, make sure your source of joy is in the Lord Jesus Christ. His love is steadfast. He never changes. No one, not even a wayward son or daughter can rob you of the joy that Jesus gives. Remember, the joy of the Lord is your strength. Ask God for the forgiveness of our negligence and grace to go on loving our prodigal son or daughter till they turn around.
Father, we praise you for answering our prayers that our wayward children have come home to you. Lord, many of our children are still wandering in the wilderness of sin and darkness. We ask that you will set them free. Lord, break their hearts of stone with the hammering of your Words. Lead them out of darkness into the light of your salvation. Lord, don’t let us rest till they come back to you.
Our Father in Heaven, we thank you for Jesus our perfect example of an obedient son. Help us to love you by daily obeying you and honouring you with our thoughts, our speech and our actions. Grants us as fathers to be a spiritual leader and teacher in our homes. Help us as husbands and wives to bring up our children to have godly values from you. Protect them from the wiles of the evil one, and help them to put on the full amour of God daily to withstand the attack of the evil one. We give praise and thanks in Jesus” Name. Amen.
Pastor Isaac Yim
箴言17：6, 21, 25