Tuesday, 14 April 2020
A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands. (NLT)
A woman’s family is held together by her wisdom, but it can be destroyed by her foolishness. (CEV)
The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down. (ESV)
Proverbs 14.1-35 there are four sections:
- Walking in Wisdom vs. Folly vv 1-7
- Walking by Faith and Not by sight. Vv 8-15
- Walking before others vv 16-32
- Walking to impact the nation vv 33-35
The contrast between Lady Wisdom and Lady Folly continues from Proverbs 9.1. The brief statement about the wise woman here will be further discussed in Proverbs 31.10-30. Whereas the second part of verse one, “the foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.” Was discussed in Proverbs 7.10-23 and Proverbs 12.4 “A worthy wife is a crown for her husband, but a disgraceful woman is like cancer in his bones.” Proverbs continue to say that the disgrace cannot be hidden, it will be like “trying to stop the wind or trying to hold something with greased hands.” Pro. 27.15-16
To be wise or foolish is a choice made by a person. Lady Wisdom is calling out, inviting you to come to her, to learn from her and be enriched by her. It’s all a choice. We can build up or tear down our homes with the same pair of hands.
The house can mean a building, dwelling or palace, the writer is using figuratively as home, household and family. The picture here is about a wise woman who is able to enlarge or extend her household, teaching her children and be a blessing to her husband in contrast to a foolish woman whose foolishness causes damage to her husband and a detriment to her children and result in breaking up the family.
One of the most common ways to tear down a home is by the words that a woman speaks. Words are very powerful and can be used to build up the family members or tear them down. One way that a woman tears down her home is by being a nagging wife. Webster’s Dictionary defines the word “nag”: 1) to annoy by continual scolding, fault finding, complaining, urging, etc. 2) to keep troubling, worrying, etc. Therefore, a nagging wife is one who must be in control, not trusting God and living in faith, but is one who tries to get her way by continually complaining. She is never pleased with her husband or children and tells them so.
Buildings don’t just pop up from the ground on its own. Neither are homes built on their own. A house is built with brick and mortar; wood and nails. But a home is built with love, kindness, beauty, orderliness, discernment; instructions and disciplines; harmony; unity and stability. A wise woman creates an environment where the husband and children will love to come back to. A place where the family plays and prays together; where Christ is honoured; and a place where everyone is love and accepted. The Biblical pattern for building a home is to follow the command of God. The father leads with example and love for his wife. The wife submits to the husband and the children obey their parents.
A plain marble stone, in a churchyard, bears this brief inscription: “She always made home happy.” This epitaph was penned by a bereaved husband, after sixty years of wedded life. What a rare combination of virtues and graces this wife and mother must have possessed! How wisely she must have ordered her house! In what patience she must have possessed her soul! How self-denying she must have been! How tender and loving! How thoughtful for the comfort of all about her! (Christian Treasury.)
1 Peter 3:8-12 (NLT)
8 Finally, all of you should be of one mind. Sympathize with each other. Love each other as brothers and sisters.[a] Be tenderhearted, and keep a humble attitude. 9 Don’t repay evil for evil. Don’t retaliate with insults when people insult you. Instead, pay them back with a blessing. That is what God has called you to do, and he will grant you his blessing. 10 For the Scriptures say,
“If you want to enjoy life
and see many happy days,
keep your tongue from speaking evil
and your lips from telling lies.
11 Turn away from evil and do good.
Search for peace, and work to maintain it.
12 The eyes of the LORD watch over those who do right,
and his ears are open to their prayers.
But the LORD turns his face
against those who do evil.”[b]
Prayer for today
Heavenly Father, Thank you for your love and grace that empowers us to overcome the fear of the pandemic. We thank you for each of our families. We are grateful that you have kept us safe and provided all our needs. We thank you for the family time you have given to us. Lord, we also feel that we are bored being locked up in our home for such a long time. There are times our pride comes between our relationship. Give us patience and forbearance with one another. Help us to be gentle and kind especially now. Help us to guard our mouths so that we speak gracious and kind things about one another. Help us to build up one another and never to tear down others with our mouths. We are anxious about the future. With this indefinite lockdown, we are faced with much uncertainty of the unknown. We come humbly before you, asking you to be merciful to us and all of our families.
We thank you for all our wives and mothers. Grant them the wisdom to daily choose Wisdom over Folly to build our homes. We commit every member of our home to play our role responsibly to make our home a place we love to be.
We pray for the frontline workers, protect them, renew their strength and provide their daily needs. We pray for all those who are infected by the Coronavirus and are under treatment, heal them, Lord.
We pray for the Government, that they be wise in distributing help to the needy people. We pray that they be able to come up with effective financial plans to help the lower-income group to survive in the lockdown period. Traders and businesses will receive help so that they can provide jobs for workers. Watch over the migrant workers, where they live in crowded areas.
We pray for Adriel Yim, as he is not to go for the operation today, but will go for further tests. Doctors are still studying all the details and come up with an effective plan to help him. Thank God, he went through the Echo and CT Scan. The heart surgery date is still uncertain. Lord, your time is the best time.
Lord, we are grateful you are there to listen to our prayers.
In Jesus’ Name. Amen.
Pastor Isaac Yim
箴言 14:1 智慧妇人建立家室，愚妄妇人，亲手拆毁。
在一个教堂墓地的一块普通大理石上刻有简短的题词：“她总是使家庭幸福。”经过六十多年的婚姻生活，这个墓志铭是一位丧亲的丈夫写的。这位妻子和母亲拥有的美德与优雅是何等的稀少！她安排处理家庭事务是何等的有智慧！她心中的耐心是何等的多！他是何等的舍己！何等的有温柔和爱心！对她是何等的安慰！ （摘自Christian Treasury）